Who changed the rules? Is it still the same game? Written April 7, 2009

OH MY!   I think I need a playbook.  What the heck is going on?  I was so thrilled at having a drama free guy!  Where did he go?  Maybe it's me?  (Yeah Right!)  I was enjoying going out and seeing movies, having dinner, just kicking it with his friends or mine.  All our friends were told we were just friends at this point.  We had no boyfriend or girlfriend label slapped across our foreheads.  We were enjoying the noncommittal commitment we had.  Weren't we?  I really really enjoyed it. Now it's gotten weird.

For instance, last weekend there was a BBQ at his friends house.  His friend, who I go out with, with or without him, invited me to her hubby's 50th.  We were both invited, just separately.   I hadn't heard from him to say that 'we' were going or anything. So the day of, I informed him, that I would be going. I was after all I was invited. I just hoped he wouldn't mind. He just says sure, pick up a b-day card for the birthday boy that he could give him.  That was it.  No big thing.  Cool.   So I assumed (I know, I know, never assume) that we are just going as 2 friends, like anybody else. I am cool with that.

So I get there, hug the friends I already know and I start to mingle.  I strike up a conversation with the b-day boy's sister and friend. Doing the get to know everybody I don't already know thing. Then he comes over and starts talking to me.  Cool!  He's a great conversationalist.  Then he introduces me to his boss and a few other co-workers.  I walk outside, he joins me, introduces me to other friends.  Then he's back inside and I'm outside talking with the guys out there.  Listening to stories about the birthday boy and pranks they pulled on each other in college.  Good stuff!

All in all, a good time was had by all (or at least I had a good time). Once the crowd thinned, there were a few of the b-day boys closest friends left. And as tradition dictates, the guys had to tell the new friend all the birthday boys most embarrasing and funny stories.  I am really enjoying the story-telling when he (the guy formerly known as Drama-Free) get's up and announces that we should be leaving now. (Oh! No you dih-n't homey) Oh, but yes, he did.  Oh my!

So now I'm wondering... WTF?  Why are you trippin'?  Are we or aren't we? And if we are, what are we? Or are you just being dramatic? I need to talk to this boy cuz I just don't get it. Again...WTF?