Don't know what I want, but know what I don't want.

A friend recently asked how I knew what I wanted.   How was I so together, after all I'd been through?  I thought about it for a while.  Even prayed about it.  I've come to the realization that I don't know what I want.  Dating, however has made me painfully aware of what I don't want.  I don't want the same ol' guy I've had for most of my adult life.

I think I've been wrong when I say I don't really want anything serious.  I do.  Just not within a week of meeting. What I really mean is that I don't want anything too serious too quickly.  I am a very passionate person.  That attracts men who are emotionally needy.  I don't want to be asked to move in with you after 2 weeks.  That scares me.  I'd like to get to know someone, hang out with their friends and mine and still sleep over in the interim.  Not the first date of course, but I don't want to wait too horribly long.  For that matter how soon is too soon?  Can we have physical intimacy without sex?  Can we just cuddle? Not too long, because I don't think I'm a cuddler. Although I have been known to enjoy cuddling, usually I can't do it for very long.  I do in fact really enjoy kissing.  That I could do for days.  A man who can kiss is the sexiest thing I can think of.  Long slow sensual kisses that lead to more kissing.

I would like a boy friend, I would.  I haven't been too excited about the men I've dated lately though.  What is wrong with dating for a while.  Why does there have to be a label slapped on our foreheads?  Really?   Can I just introduce you to my friends as my date?  Will you be offended by that?  And If you are, will you discuss it with me or let it fester?

I don't want to be alone.  By the same token I don't want to be with somebody just because they are there.  Or because I know they won't hurt me or leave me or abuse me.  I want to fall in love and share my life with a man. My friend tells me I'm brutally honest.  I believe that if things aren't going to work out, they aren't going to work out and we shouldn't drag it out.  Someone is gonna get hurt and I'd just as soon it be now than later.

My ideal man.  Is there such a thing?  I just want someone who is able to carry on a conversation.  Is passionate, but can discuss any differences we may have or just agree to disagree.  I would of course like for him to be taller than me.  I'm a Latina and 5'8", which in Latina translates to Amazon woman.   So many things going on in my life.  I just can't get it out of my mind the feeling when something wonderful happens and there is no one there to share it with.  Or of course the times in life when ya just need a little strange and again there's no one you can call.  At least no one that you wouldn't regret later.

I chat with a friend of FaceBook, who is more a flirtation than anything else.  I know nothing will ever come of it, but sometimes it just feels good to be wanted.  On occasion I even flirt with 'Lips'  the guy who pulverized my heart.  I know I could never allow myself to be with him again, but in that moment, it is satisfying knowing that he wants me.  Dirty dog that he is.  That is one thing that now I'm wondering about.  I have a  rule.  If I break up with someone, I don't go back.  Ever.  Is that a good thing or not?   I tend to stay in a relationship until I am absolutely certain that I no longer want to continue.  Then, never look back.  Wondering if that's the best plan of action...

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